tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7455677610556898964.post2500520961421883350..comments2023-10-28T06:25:56.202-07:00Comments on Almost.: A baby after infidelityMiss Meghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12456468474019195782noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7455677610556898964.post-9161077893473622462019-01-03T17:41:07.264-08:002019-01-03T17:41:07.264-08:00My husband and I divorced after he cheated. He got...My husband and I divorced after he cheated. He got with the girl. 6 months later we decided to try again. He wants another baby badly and at times I do too. We have 4 other children. One of his reasons was that he felt unloved. I was focused on being a mother. I'm not sure that I can emotionally handle being pregnant or the aftermath of post partum depression. I have major depressive disorder now as it. I was a complete mess when all this happen. I can go days and be okay and some I'm not, others are the worst. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05779628029055477637noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7455677610556898964.post-467194540765220642018-10-26T04:42:43.386-07:002018-10-26T04:42:43.386-07:00Thank you so much for such an honest story! You ar...Thank you so much for such an honest story! You are such a brave woman! What's pregnancy like in a marriage after your spouse cheated? It's my worst nightmare. In my own opinion I don't think that a baby may help a couple to bring them back to a good place. But we all are so different, so who knows?Alyssa Dillonhttp://www.divorce-explained.com/new-jersey/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7455677610556898964.post-61327339817284476172018-10-25T11:29:27.919-07:002018-10-25T11:29:27.919-07:00Great post!Great post!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7455677610556898964.post-28180068885250067782016-10-03T13:05:05.813-07:002016-10-03T13:05:05.813-07:00I didn't realize anyone was reading this! You ...I didn't realize anyone was reading this! You can email me at mcand4a@gmail.com if you'd like to talk!! Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09489665186875185139noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7455677610556898964.post-54041563533656763842016-03-20T02:28:28.959-07:002016-03-20T02:28:28.959-07:00I'd love to know the follow up to this situati...I'd love to know the follow up to this situation... I'm in a similar one. We're married and happy, NOW, but just the thought of the past can ruin everything for weeks (not good when ttc...). So maybe I'm not as over it as I seem. We want a baby so bad, but after thinking about the past, it makes me sick to think of him inside me...Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09132825725862664721noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7455677610556898964.post-56062463048035910202013-07-22T14:48:55.231-07:002013-07-22T14:48:55.231-07:00Maybe i can shed some light one year out....
My hu...Maybe i can shed some light one year out....<br />My husband fessed up about a year ago to a teo month long e motional affair through e mail and phone conversations. If you knew my husband ....it just has been devastating. He was my prince. But i suppose that is part of the lesson....no one should be perfect to you in that they make no mistakes. I did neglect him...was suing my boss and of course drown myself in motherhood. Our daughter was a little over a year old at the time. Thats when things got so fun and easy so it surprised me that he felt so unloved. I struggle with that the most.....gee i did not really feel loved up all night with a newborn and never a moment to myself. Yet i still needed to give him tons of attention in order for HIM to feel loved ???<br />One year later i can tell you this......if you decide to stay, tings can be dramatically better and different from even when you first met. You have learned a new way to overcome something. But what i really learned is that once you make the decision to stay...it is not a free pass to punish him everyday. It is not okay to make him be the worst person alive and rub that in his face everyday. If you decide to stay, that just it...YOUR decision to stay. So from that point on, you have to be a team and recover. I still have to remund myself of that. I still get amgry almost everyday...even though he has worked hard everyday since. Men are just a different species.....that fact helps sometimes.<br />The other part of this is that he wants another child badly. He is very honest about that. I wanted a child before all this and actually was trying to tell him the night of discovery. But i have pushed away my maternal wants after this. Now they are stronger than ever and plus he wants it too...along with my very verbal 23 mos old asking for a sibling! On one hand i want to punish him in this way also....no! You cannot have another baby.....but on the other hand why should i punish myself in this way too! And of course my daughter deserves a great , living family including siblings....<br />Where are you at now with all of this???Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com